B.J. Askew

Wed, 04 Nov 2009 15:10:36 GMT

With regard to the below post.....anyone who wants to write a book without interviewing people is insane. Plus that site has too many spelling errors to be serious. I think someone is trying to make money off of site hits so don't visit that site. There is less than nothing interesting on it anyway. There is another site that is good but, I will not give out a link on here.

B.J. Askew

Mon, 02 Nov 2009 01:11:45 GMT

HE IS JUST FINE...LOOKING GOOD AS ALWAYS

B.J. Askew

Fri, 30 Oct 2009 15:59:28 GMT

Well he's on the injured reserve list so he won't be playing for a while. And that sucks! Only his family knows how is is really doing. There have been conflicting stories from it was a fender bender to a severe rear end hit. All I can say is I hope he gets better so he is out on the field again!

B.J. Askew

Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:53:56 GMT

IS HE BETTER YET??

B.J. Askew

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 14:39:10 GMT

Feel better BJ I hope to see you playing football sooner rather than later :-) You are good when you play!

B.J. Askew

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 12:28:14 GMT

A Beautiful Heart?

The more disappointment, pain and suffering you have gone thru in life, the stronger and more
beautiful your heart becomes.

One day a young man was standing in the middle of town proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart in the valley. Happy because he had no scares.

A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect. There was not a mark or a flaw in it. Yes, they all agreed it truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen. The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart.

Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said, "Why your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine." The crowd and the young man looked at the old man's heart. It was beating strongly, but full of scars, it had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in, but they didn't fit quite right and there were several jagged edges. In fact, in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces of his heart were missing.

The people stared. How can he say his heart is more beautiful?? they thought. The young man looked at the old man's heart with all of it’s flaws and laughed. "You must be joking," he said. "Compare your heart with mine, mine is perfect and yours is a mess of deep rooted scars and tears."

"Yes," said the old man, "Yours is perfect looking but I would never trade mine with you.

B.J. Askew

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 12:27:57 GMT

You see, every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love –

Each tear represents a piece of my heart that I gave to save anthers life.

Each jagged edge represent the gift someone gave to me when my heart was giving up someone often gave me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart,. And because the pieces aren't exact, I have some rough edges, which I cherish, because they remind me of the love we shared.

Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart away, and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me, and they have not shared their love with anyone this part of my heart are the empty gouges for giving in love is taking a chance. Although these gouges are painful, they stay open, reminding me of the love I have for these people, and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting.

So now do you see what true beauty is?

The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man, reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart, and ripped apiece out of his heart and placed it in an empty gouge of the old mans heart.
The old man took then took a piece from his old scarred heart and placed it in the wound in the young man's heart. It fit, but not perfectly, as there were some jagged edges.

The young man looked at his heart, not perfect anymore but realized it was more beautiful than ever, since love from the old man's heart flowed into his own.

They embraced and walked away side by side, both with beautiful hearts and a lasting lesson in life’s journey.

B.J. Askew

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 03:03:47 GMT

Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not its own, is not provoked, taketh not account of evil; rejoiceth not in unrighteousness, but rejoiceth with the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Love never faileth... 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

B.J. Askew

Thu, 22 Oct 2009 18:43:37 GMT

Where there is money there will be gold diggers . How can you be in love with someone… and yet not trust that person when you marry? If you can’t be trusted before the marriage saying I do won’t change that.

B.J. Askew

Tue, 01 Sep 2009 08:02:21 GMT

Negative people are energy vampires. They have an almost endless capacity to dwell on what they don’t want.
All things are at the mercy of time.

B.J. Askew

Wed, 12 Aug 2009 05:18:36 GMT

Throughout much of our civilization's history and in various parts of the world, those with limited options have been seeking wealthy partners who can provide for them, prioritizing financial security over other factors, like love, looks, and/or compatibility. The term "gold digger" became popular during the American Gold Rush. Times have changed, but the concept remains the same. Where there is money there will be gold diggers. Take it from someone that knows. Don’t be fooled protect your assets or you will suffer the consequences.

B.J. Askew

Tue, 11 Aug 2009 12:14:20 GMT

Make sure your future marriage has a solid foundation.

Concerning the prenuptial posting

A big part of romance is security & trust. If you are considering marriage and you have more assets than your partner make no mistake about it you need a prenuptial agreement. Build your prenup around your shared vision and dreams and then see a lawyer to incorporate them into a legal document. Make sure the prenup protects you in the event something goes wrong (like divorce). Statistically one out of four marriages in this country end in divorce. In the league it’s fifty percent. All the more reason for a person considering marriage to have a prenuptial agreement.

Before you walk down the aisle into blissful happiness to your perfect wedding, give the greatest gift you can to your marriage and your self: Peace of mind. Make sure your future marriage has a solid foundation and is based on love not money. You need to be ready to make decisions that will protect yourself and your family with a prenuptial agreement and life insurance. Then enter your wedding day feeling calm and more confident!

Please do not end up like my friend who came to me after a disastrous break-up. He had been left basically penniless and distraught! The young lady he married ended up with fifty percent of his current and future income. They had two kids, and he had kids from a previous relationship. Now all of whom are enjoying the fruits of his labor -his income. (This sounds all too familiar) The relationship ended after eight years and he is stuck holding the tab for her extravagant lifestyle. When he came into the league he did not understand the importance of a prenup and was convinced his love would last forever. I had friends and family try to talk to him about protecting his future before something happen and he refused. The young lady he was marrying felt that a prenup was an act of disloyalty, when he brought up the need to have one she simply said if I do sign one I want one that is fair to me. She brought nothing to the table but bills she had accumulated. She convinced him they wold never need a prenup because they would never get divorced. She even told him that neither of their parents had a prenup and they are just fine. We all could see through her because we had all been there before with other players in the league. Most marriages in the league end up in divorce. Since the breakup… he felt totally betrayed not only by the women, but the court system too! He have moved from his home into a much smaller condo and barely has enough money to take care of his monthly bills.. Brothers don’t let this happen to you …- You can protect yourself financially and build a strong, lasting foundation for your new relationship. how can you be in love with someone… and yet not trust that person when you marry? A proper Prenup Agreement is about more than just money- It helps you clearly understand your commitment and - It helps keep a great Romance going. A Prenup does one thing and that is to insure protection of assets during divorce. (Heaven Forbid)

Having a good understanding and knowledge of prenuptial agreements can save you a ton of money at the lawyer and most importantly your life savings.

If you don’t feel confident and secure that your marriage is about love and not money do not walk down the isle.

You know exactly what you are getting into when a women who don’t have a job and has nothing to add says she will sign a prenup that benefits her. Brothers and Sisters you should protect your own possessions. N.F.L. means not for long.

Without a Prenuptial Agreement you will be taking one of the biggest risks of your life

B.J. Askew

Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:36:46 GMT

In a healthy relationship, there must be an openness of communication on all topics. Failure to discuss something important to you will likely breed resentment later.

You are already talking about other elements of a future marriage; you should incorporate this topic into those discussions.

If the relationship is too fragile to tolerate discussions about difficult subjects, then I suggest you think twice about the relationship. The inability to communicate openly is the real problem, not whether a prenup signals you are already planning a divorce.

These days, the divorce rate is so high that people are very aware of the possibility a marriage won’t last forever. Even though they enter marriage with optimism, statistics show they could be wrong.

What’s more, people are marrying later, and therefore accumulating more wealth before marriage. Sometimes there are children from a previous marriage. Maybe there is a great economic imbalance, with one spouse giving up a lucrative career to rear children.

If something should happen to derail the marriage, it’s natural that the wealthier partner, or the person with more to lose, wouldn’t want to relinquish half of those assets.

On the other hand, as you know, there is also the feeling that desiring a prenup — especially if one spouse does and one does not — indicates the marriage may not work. So it is fair to ask yourself whether you would be so eager to sign if your spouse were the wealthy one. What if you lost your job and your husband got rich? What if it were his money at stake, not yours?

Whatever you conclude, no relationship is perfect. And nobody can predict the future. It is not unreasonable to want to protect your assets in case of disaster.

Here’s a good analogy. When you go for a drive, don’t you always buckle your seatbelt? You don’t plan to get into a collision, but you take precautions just in case. The idea is to have a protective measure in place because of circumstances beyond your control. By all means protect you assets.

If he doesn’t want a prenup and you do, that doesn’t mean the relationship is over. But you must negotiate in a way that works for both of you. I think you are best off being honest. Tell your boyfriend you wouldn’t marry him if you didn’t believe it would last forever, and you want it to. Yet at the same time your future is too important to leave up for chance. Where large sums of money are concern you must protect what you have given your life to earn.

B.J. Askew

Sat, 04 Jul 2009 03:38:43 GMT

Quit trying to pull people on your journey who don't want to travel with you. Either they believe in you and value you...or they don't!

Quit complaining about things you don’t try, can’t, or won’t change.

Quit trying to change people in order to be with you. If you have to change them you don’t need them in your life.

Quite saying you got the I can’t help it’s.

Quit buying things when you know you can't afford them.

Quit going to the store if you don't have self control.

Quit charging things that you do not need. If you can eat it don’t charge it.

Quit letting people rope you into the drama -just tell them you do not want to hear it!

Quit cussing people out when you know that they are just being the miserable and jealous people that they are.

Quite lowering your standards because you may be lonely. Exercise some self-control and wait.

Quit spreading the drama. Recognize drama when you hear it and choose to say- this mess stops here.

Quit calling other relatives and telling them about your sister, brother, cousin, uncle, or aunt. Go back to minding your own business and that should be enough to keep you busy.

Quit lying to your-self and be the best person you can be.