Qualities Of A Good Woman To Marry...
They are characteristics of a woman we want for one night. Just like
character is the most important quality of a good guy, the woman you’re
going to marry should have good character as well. When you find her,
she is more valuable than anything.
1. She shares your beliefs
When it comes to finding your wife, I’ve heard “equally yoked.” It
has nothing to do with weightlifting for those of you guys who like
muscle women. Your potential wife should have the same beliefs you have.
Now, you may think you can do some missionary dating, and turn that
situation around so she will believe everything you do. You’re probably
going to be very disappointed with some bad side effects. If you don’t
have the same core beliefs….good luck.
2.She makes you a better man
If everyday is hell with her, that should be a red flag. Your
potential wife should elevate you to Yourself 2.0. You can get a good
idea from your friends and family. Do they say you act differently in a
bad way when you are around her? Not a good sign. She should bring out
the best in you, not bring out heartache and frayed nerves.
3. She’s trustworthy
In fact, she should inspire trustworthiness within you. If you don’t
trust her, you’re probably making her as bitter as you’re making
yourself. Not worth it. If you can’t trust her, maybe you’re not ready
to date her or maybe you need to work on confidence issues within
yourself. If there’s good reason not to trust her, don’t even go there.
Just like any cheater, it’s bound to happen again.
4. She has ambition
She should have strength in character and carry herself with
confidence. As a man, you should be the leader in the relationship, but
for any dictators who feel justified here; we’re talking servant
leadership. You probably don’t want the consummate follower either. She
should have plans too. In fact, she should be a hard worker just like
you. That doesn’t mean having a job is a requirement. One of my friends
is a stay-at-home wife with three kids, and she works harder than any of
my friends with careers.
5. She’s selfless
She should care about others. Look at the way she treats her family
and her friends. If she’s not close with her family, and doesn’t have
any good friends, that’s not a good sign. If you start dating her, much
less marry her, you will discover why soon enough. Some questions to ask
yourself: Does she care about causes? Does she go out and volunteer?
Does she give change to the needy or buy them a meal? These are
important characteristics to consider. .
6. She’s attractive
In your eyes, she should be a “10.” When my wife walks in the room,
I’m awestruck by her every time. She’s beautiful from the inside out.
However, I’ve dated “hot” girls who ended up being downright ugly by the
time we broke up. Personality plays into attractiveness big-time. Just
remember, “charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting.” She should be
beautiful down to her soul because that kind of beauty lasts forever.
7. She’s smart
You’re going to be spending a lot of time with her, so she should be
able to hold a good conversation. She should be wise, smart, and give
you good advice. Her women’s intuition should be strong. I look to my
wife all the time for advice. She’s collected all sorts of wisdom from
her mom. She remembers everything. Yes, everything….maybe too much.
8. She loves you unconditionally
If she’s trying to change you to be another person, it’s time to move
on. Your future wife should love you just as you are, regardless of
anything you’ve done in your past. There will be minor adjustments along
the way, but if she nags you about your core characteristics, it won’t
get any better in marriage.
9. She’s responsible
Does she remember appointments and meetings? Does she flake all of the time? She
should already do a good job of managing her own life. If she’s got
loads of debt and doesn’t work, you’re going to be taking all of that
on. Ultimately, she will have some part in your financial well-being,
and guess what? Finances remain one of the leading causes of divorce.
10. She gets along with your family and friends
If she doesn’t even try to connect with your family and/or friends,
let her go. She shouldn’t be critical of the people who you love and
have been loyal to you throughout your life. There might be cases where
your mom doesn’t like your future wife, and that may require your
intervention; but in general, she should be a good fit with the people
in your life.
Marriage is a joining of two lives that existed prior to meeting the
other person. When it comes down to it, you know what you can handle.
Love can overwrite any of the qualities above, but having these
qualities will certainly make your lives easier once you are married. No
Even with this list, both of you are still going to bring some kind
of baggage into the relationship. Make sure premarital counseling is a
huge priority once you find her. My wife and I did a relationship
bootcamp in addition to premarital counseling. One session just doesn’t
cut it. Throw everything but the kitchen sink at the most important
decision you will ever make.